As you already know, I have decided to stay home for time being withmy little angel. I am soooo excited to have this opportunity and I never want to take it for granted. Since my little princess was born there have been easy days, and days that are a bit harder. This is all due to the lack of sleep, me not knowing what I’m doing as a mama, me being overwhelmed with duties and well – life. Whether you’re a stay at home mama or you work 60 hours a week, all moms out there know how hard it is to keep a house in order, feed the people that live in it, love and nurture those people – oh and take care of yourself. And so I have had to sort of find my groove if you will.
Between months 2-3 of little G’s magical life, I was in sort of a funk. And this was even after I had decided to stay at home! I mean – how ungrateful right? I found myself walking around kind of waiting for Georgia to wake up. I didn’t know what to do with myself while she was sleeping. Sure – the house was a mess and laundry was sky high but it’s like I was too overwhelmed to know where to begin. Luckily my mama lives close by and she helped me sort of get a routine going, and I have found – for me personally – a routine is necessary. SO here are some things that have helped me.
I need a “house routine” as in – I clean on Thursdays and do laundry on Monday and Wednesdays – that way I don’t get overwhelmed by everything on one day. For some people this is too much structure, for me it is extremely necessary. I also love having a clean house Thursday night and for the whole weekend.
I get up and put on clothes 4 out of 5 days a week. For a while I was LIVING in my pajamas. Day in and day out – and let me tell you there is nothing wrong with this at first. New mamas – take the time you need to rest and recover – but it was time for me to get moving a little and I found it hard to be motivated when it was 5pm and me and Georgia were both still in our PJs.
I schedule outings with friends every week. Maybe a walk – maybe a lunch date. Something. I need adult interaction. This is difficult for me because in some ways I am kinndaaaaaaaaaaaa a recluse. At first it was because I had a bit of anxiety when I thought about taking G out by myself – I mean what if she poops all over me at Chik-fil-A (oh, wait she did that already), or has a temper tantrum in the middle of Target (yep, checked that one off the list too)? If it were up to me I would stay cozy in my house with my baby all day, every day. Only I’ve realized that for my personal well-being I need to get out. Luckily I have amazing friends with babes who invite me for walks or coffee and if/when G has a meltdown – well that’s OK too.
I read this post by Britt – and basically I try to do everything on her list. It helped me to gain sanity and realize I wasn’t the only one struggling with this. So thanks Britt J
Time with Jesus. HELLO?! This one should have been obvious right? But I’m sort of thick-headed at time and it just wasn’t. I need time to sit and be still. I need time to pray. I need time to read my devotional. That is how I recharge.
And last – I hold myself to a standard of GRACE not perfection. I have that print in my living room as a constant reminder that I’m not perfect – not a perfect mama, not a perfect wife, house-keeper (in fact, I’m pretty terrible at that one) and not a perfect cook. But I don’t beat myself up. I do the best I can and I hold my baby and my husband close at night – and that my friends, is happiness.