mamahood round 2

if i'm being honest, the past three months are a blur.  a happy blur.  and a messy one.  being a mama of two is no joke.  i had some friends who told me it wasn't a big transition at all for them and that they eased into it, where others told me it rocked their world.  i think we fall somewhere in the middle but definitely leaning towards the latter.  it has been a big adjustment.  for everyone.  but that baby boy of mine?  he is the perfect addition to our family.  it's so amazing to me how God chooses each person in a family and it is so evident that matthew was our missing part.  he has the most laid back demeanor, completely unlike his sister as a baby.  he's the smiley-est baby of all times.  even mid-meltdown city, just flash him a smile and whisper his name and he's all ear-to-ear gummy grinning.  it's a contagious gummy grin i tell you.  and that big sister of his?  she melts my heart in all sorts of ways.  she's slowly taking to her brother and has just started taking it upon herself to show him all of her toys (this is HUGE people).  i want to break down in a puddle of mush when i think about how much she has grown up over the past three months too.  she has matured and learned and loved and screamed and cried it all out.  it has been so beautiful.  in the really hard moments i remind myself that georgia will never know a life without matthew.  she will never remember being the only baby.  and truthfully, i'm thankful for that.  every single night i pray for their relationship.  that they will love each other fiercely and speak truth and life to one another.  i pray they will have each other's back, especially in high school and middle school (hello awkward years!).  i pray when one is too weak to fight for something worth fighting for then the other will offer the nudge that is needed.

and then there's the mess that is me.  i'm definitely more laid back this time around.  like for real.  sometimes i wish i would have had this perspective more when georgia was so tiny but i also know that it is all part of the learning process.  the mama process.  i'm savoring a little more this time.  even those 2 am and 4 am cuddle fests when really, i want to be asleep!  but i'm still a worry monster at times (all the time) too.  so don't worry.  pyscho mama is still here.  although my relationship with google is much healthier this go round.  thank goodness!

and gosh my people.  my village.  my husband who works so hard for our family both at work and at home.  the selfless way he serves us and the way he loves my babies and me.  i just can't even.  and my mama.  oh my mama.  she deserves a break.  i mean she's already raised me and my sister.  but yet she shows up still and helps me do the messy, hard stuff with my babies.  these past 3 months would have been a bit horrendous without her.  and the host of of people.  the rest of my family, taking georgia for amazing playdates, my best friends, showing up with food (and wine!) and playing with my babies, my neighbors - gosh i am so humbled.  my mama best friends who indulge my 3 am text-a-thins because they are there too.  there have been so. many. times. that i have just started sobbing in the middle of the day both out of gratitude as well as heartbreak when i think of others who don't have the support system i do.  so consider this a PSA - help the mamas out.  whether a working mama, a stay at home mama, a single mama, and foster mama, a rich mama, a poor mama, a mama with lots of help or a mama with no help at all.  love them.  love them all.  encourage them and support them in any way you can.  they are doing hard work of raising the next generation.  that goes for the daddies too.  support and build each other up.  we need each other.

this was a bunch of mumbo jumbo for my first blog post in a million weeks.  but hey.  that's life.  and this is my life.  and i'm so happy these days.  so grateful too.  thank you god for these perfect little blessings.  and the messiness of this season of my life.  and tomorrow is my hubby's birthday which means... CAKE!

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Mother's Day 2015

such a tomboy.  always a ball in her hand

gigi and daddy's herb and vegetable garden has taken off!  we even used the spinach for a smoothie the other day

My mother's day was perfect this year.  My sweet hubby planned a slew of my favorite events that all needed bright and sunny weather (strawberry picking, picnic in the park, beach) but then we got hit by a tropical storm.  So none of those outdoorsy things happened, but you know what did happen?  Snuggles, kisses, family time, laughs and a pedicure with my mama.  I'd say that's a win!  And we snuck outside for a few pictures after brunch.

hope all you mamas and mamas to be out there felt loved, appreciated and special.  and to all you women who want so badly to be a mama but aren't, or to those who miss their children in heaven, or to anyone who misses their own mama or doesn't have a relationship with their own mama.  i woke up with you on my heart and i prayed for you.  and i continue to pray for you.  god is good even in hard times and whatever your story, know He has never left your side.  He holds you in the darkest and the brightest of times.  still praying for you.

xox

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mama's life

being a mama is hard sometimes.  there's puke everywhere, you usually have a messy house, you're always always late, dinner is never ready on time, your tummy is soft and your hair full of grease.  at least that's how it is most of the time around my house.  but i've come to find the hard mess the most beautiful thing.  matt has been a big help in this.  he makes sure i know he finds me even more beautiful than before.  he tells me he loves our messy house way better than our perfectly straight house.  and that means the world.  one of my favorite boards on my pinterest page is this one.  most of these photos don't show the mess, but they do show the small moments in between the mess.  dancing around the kitchen, holding tight to mama's sleep (probably after she just cleaned up puke), sleepy cuddles.  they make my heart happy. i just love seeing mama's and babies and their different style and way-of-life.  which is why i've also fallen in love with the grace tales.  and before i was a mama i loved being an aunt and a teacher.  these women in these photos may not even me mamas.  they could just be women in a young babe's life that loves them dearly.  and i love that.  so cheers to special women and the role they play in a child's life.  and a special shout out to our teachers as they go back to school!  your influence in our child's life is immense and i am forever grateful.

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our morning routine

I have had a few people inquire about my morning routine with G, so I thought I'd post it on here in case anyone else was curious.  We are actually in a pretty good routine these days and I am finally starting to feel (somewhat) rested!  Wahoo!  Although as we near Georgia's 1st Birthday - any suggestions from other mamas about that dreaded transition from 2 naps a day to 1 is MUCH appreciated!  

pictures from a recent trip to Atlantic Beach with friends

our morning routine

5:30-6:30 - G wakes up anytime within this window.  I try and wait to go in her room until 6 at the earliest though.  She takes a 6 ounce bottle and then we play for a little while upstairs so we don't wake up dada too early.  We usually head downstairs around 7 am where dada joins us.  G has breakfast (some pureed fruit and veggies with her vitamin) and has some dada QT.  This is usually when I brush my teeth, wash my face, get out of PJ's.  Then we play some more and wave bye bye to Matt as he leaves for work.  Then G takes a 4 ounce bottle and usually goes down for her 1st nap around 8 and sleeps until 10ish.  This is when I try and answer emails, blog, straighten up the house or start some laundry.  (**side note: if I am sleepy at all then all productivity is thrown out the window and I lay down and sleep when G does**).  When she wakes up she takes a bottle and we get her ready for the day.  This is when we usually sneak away for a few hours.  Sometimes we'll go to the pool, meet friends for lunch or take care of any grocery/Target runs.  I pack her lunch and some snacks on the go. We are usually home by 1 or 1:30 so G can take her afternoon nap.  And there ya have it!  Our morning routine.  Quite simple and uneventful.  I thought I would be the type of mom to stick to a strict schedule and while sometimes I wish I was more strict about it, I have found that what works for me is to watch my baby.  G is different every day so I have to model her schedule after how she is feeling (teething throws a wrench in to just about everything!) and how she slept the night before.  I have also found that it works for G to be up for 2 hours before her 1st nap and then up 3 hours before her 2nd nap.  What about you other mamas?  Any tricks or schedules that you have loved?

And THIS ARTICLE yall.  I found it via Sarah yesterday and I love it.  I think it goes hand in hand with my post yesterday about finding a swimsuit you love and rocking it!  Because life is too short to sit on the sidelines.  Jump in mamas.

And!  And!  I have been nominated as a Top Southern Blog by the SBS and would LOVE for you to take 10 seconds and vote for me!!  Just click HERE, scroll down and tap the heart over my picture.  I am number 12!!  xox

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funny video for your monday

Oh hey there!  I still blog I promise.  But last week was a bittttttttttt crazy!  We had 40 people at our house Friday night for Matt's work's summer party and well, my mama and I were busy busy bees all last week.  You see, I need deadlines in my life.  They help me make stuff happen.  And I had given myself the deadline of that party to get a few things around the house finished - one being my dining room!  And so, with my mama, we made our house more of a home.  And then Saturday and Sunday were spent celebrating my hubby who is also my baby daddy - because he's great!  So great!  As is my sweet daddy!  Kisses to them both!  So that's where I was!  And now I'm going to go spend some time with sweet friends that I don't see often, but I promise there will be more posts later this week (possibly even a peek at my new dining room)!  Until then I will leave with you this hilarious video.  A friend of mine sent it to me and I couldn't help but laugh the whole time - partly because I had thought and maybe even said some of these things pre-Georgia.  But oh how things change.  I am the biggest advocate for mamas supporting mamas and this video is a funny way of saying that to all the mamas in the world - YOU ARE AWESOME.  YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB.  YOU ARE ENOUGH FOR YOUR KIDS.  YOU ARE A GREAT MOM.  In a world where everyone posts their best self - it can be hard not to compare yourself and the pressures of being "the perfect" mom can seem overwhelming.  But remember that what everyone posts is their highlight real - not their messy moments.  And in those messy moments are often the best cuddles, the best laughs and the best memories.  So here ya go - for the mamas, soon-to-be mamas and friends of mamas - this should make ya laugh :)

Oh and I made THESE this weekend and they were sooooooo yummy!  You should try them!

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Summer Link-Up Party Starting Monday, May 12th!

Link Party **Coming May 12th** 

Summertime is such a fun time of the year with little ones. It also can become overwhelming as there is so much free time you wonder what exactly to do to fill it. This summer, let’s prepare ahead of time. This way we can plan out some fun and educational activities for our little ones before the moments of boredom hit. 

Join us on Monday, May 12th, and link up your posts of summer activities (past or present). The link party will be going on for the entire week and the following Monday (May 19) we will post a list of all the activities everyone has shared! So let us join together and share some ideas and inspiration!

** This link-up party is being hosted Becky @ http://bybmg.blogspot.com Elizabeth @ http://www.allkindsofthingsblog.com Tara @ http://mrscoachsims.blogspot.com Britt @ http://www.thefiskfiles.com Sarah @ http://www.abidingingraceblog.com  Katie @ http://thelaneabove.blogspot.com Keri @ http://livinginthisseason.com and by me!  When you link up your post next week, it will be visible in this space, and on all the other blogs who will be sharing in hosting (we are still finalizing the list of hosts.)

Looking forward to you joining us next week!

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MUST ASK MAMA ROUND 3!

"Before we get started -- make sure to send over your questions to Lynzy at sparklingfootsteps (at) gmail (dot) com ASAP to get them answered next month!

ONE: "We started my son off in an infant seat then we transitioned him to a convertible car seat after he turned one. We kept him rear facing until only after he turned two (as recommended by AAP). While the convertible car seat is is still great for two year olds we were looking for an additional seat and came across the high back booster. Most of the manufacturers guidelines for the high back boosters say they are ok for two year olds (and 30 to 70 (or sometimes 90) pounds). My son falls well within this range but I am still skeptical about high back boosters for a two year old. He has weight on him but the high back boosters are so much less bulky than the convertible seats- I feel like there might not be enough protection in the event of a crash. There are a few high back boosters that come with a five point harness rather than just the belt positioning seats but I just feel like it might not be "enough" What would you do?"

Kilee: "Honestly I think you need to do whatever you feel best about. If your son falls within the range that the seat manufacturer describes, then I would be okay with it. I tend to trust what the car seat guidelines say and go with what I can afford that fits. I typically think that the more expensive car seats or the seats with more features will always try to make you to feel unsafe in any other situation because that is what sells their seats.  But if you feel like he needs added protection then keep him in the convertible seat for a while longer. If anything they are more comfortable!"

Erica: " I also have a two-year-old but she's on the petite side so I haven't reached this dilemma yet... but if your instincts are telling you that the booster might not be as safe in the event of a crash, I'd try to stick with the regular convertible seat for as long as possible. I think the only factor that might influence my decision in that sense is how happy/frustrated your son is in the carseat. If he's whining or screaming, it will distract you while driving (which will obviously put you at a higher risk for an accident). But if he's content enough in the convertible, I'd say just wait it out. :) "

Emily: " I think the bottom line is that it's important to follow your gut as a mother, and that usually your first instinct is the best! I have a new four year old that I still have in the convertible car seat because I just feel as though she has more protection and security, so I guess my advice would be to stick with what you have until you feel sure he's ready for the booster since that's what your gut is telling you to do!"

TWO: "I am expecting my second daughter in July and will be taking a year off work to care for my babies. This is a dream come true but what has me worried is how to transition my 3 year old from a 3 days a week preschool (my current place of employment) to a routine at home with a newborn. How do you fit in everything when caring for two kids under 3 and still be able to shower and have a clean house? Any tips/advice would be greatly appreciated! Thank you, lovely ladies."

Emily: "boy I could go on way too long in answering this one, because having four kiddies in four years has definitely forced me to get organized.haha The best way to condense it would be to stress the importance of lists and schedules! I wake up before any of my kids, or when I'm nursing my youngest in the morning I'll write out a timeline starting with the things that have to happen like meals and nap times, then fill in the spaces things that should happen like chores and errands, and whatever time's left ovr can go to the things that you'd like to happen, like showering and pinterest time.haha"

Erica: "Unfortunately I'm in the same boat as you at the moment so I'm not sure how to answer your question! I have a daughter who just turned two and a son that will be arriving any day now. I can tell you how I've been trying to prepare, though. I've created a room in my house that is childproof and has different montessori-type activities for my two-year-old as well as a place for me to sit and nurse, set the baby down, check my e-mail, etc. This room will be my safe haven when things get chaotic. Other than that, I haven't quite figured out when I'll be cleaning the house, making dinner, taking showers, etc. I guess I'm just going to have to find my rhythm as it comes. My biggest hope is that I can figure out a way to get the two to nap at the same time so that I can have a break! Hah. Sorry I couldn't be more help."

Brittany: "Hi, congratulations on being able to stay home with your children! I don't have any expertise with having two children, but I have a lot of friends with two under age 2 and 3. For me (with just one baby), I take advantage of nap time on days when I need things done around the house or a shower. If I am in need of a shower and it isn't nap time, I usually put her in the exersaucer and give her a few puffs and turn on Daniel Tiger or Angelina Ballerina for 10 minutes while I take a quick shower. Most of the time I just shower at night when she is asleep. As far as getting things done around the house. I usually try to occupy my daughter in the room I am trying to clean with toys or other objects she is interested in. I typically just clean the room she is in while she is playing. Another thing I do is have a dry erase board on my fridge with a few tasks to do each day. This is helpful for my husband for when he is trying to be helpful around the house. My husband is a medical student, so he's not always to help out, but this is the way we communicate what needs to be done without having to ask, and it works for us. Good luck and enjoy every moment! I just know most mama's say the laundry can wait, so try not to stress over it :) "

Kilee: "I could write a few posts about how I run our home, but my best advice would be to feel confident, work out a loose schedule, and be patient. The best way I have found to get things done, keep our house together and be a good mom is to adopt an "I can do it" attitude. I have definitely had my overwhelmed days, but I am confident in myself and my ability to do it all. I am motivated and opptimistic when I wake up everyday because I want to have a good day, I have things to do and I can't let myself get bogged down by a messy house or unhappy kids. We just work together and my kids have learned to expect how things go. My kids expect that I will get ready everyday in the morning and usually that is when they are eating breakfast. Because you have one little one and a baby, I'd recommend doing as much as you can while the baby sleeps but don't stop doing what you need to do just because the kids are up. I get ready with my kids in the bathroom- I shower while the baby lays outside the shower on the floor. I clean while my kids play or they clean with me. I try to follow a simple cleaning schedule where I pick up in the morning and at night and then clean certain areas of the home on each day of the week. Also when my kids were younger we would do the library on Mondays, play group on Wednesdays and a music group on Fridays. Its hard to have a set schedule because you have to be flexible with little ones, but a basic schedule is essential. And last I'd say be patient. With the first year of a new baby, as you know, things change all the time.  You are always in a new phase so you'll have to be really flexible and just keep working at it. Also I guess the last thing is that you need a hobby. You need a hobby to work on after the kids are in bed or before they are up or during naps. A hobby will make you happier and give your brain a break from being a SAHM. You will love it!"

THREE: "Hi Ladies! I'm a stay at home mom to my beautiful 4 1/2 month old baby girl. I am wanting to update my wardrobe but I am at a loss of what I should buy that would work for playtime at home and play dates with friends, running errands, etc? I still want to look stylish and put together but I don't want to buy things that would be impractical or could get ruined by spit up and blow outs ;)"

Veronika: "Though I work outside of the home, I think the key to building a SAHM wardrobe is to focus on pieces that are versatile so you can mix and match a lot of different items together to create different looks. The other thing that’s important is to make sure you have the basics as a foundation for the new pieces you buy. By basics I mean a great pair of jeans, a basic white tee that you love the fit of, a jacket that goes with everything (neutral color), some great flats and sandals. I think you’re looking for clothes you can feel comfortable in but also don’t mind getting down on the floor with your kids. For spring and summer, I love J.Crew’s colorful chino shorts that come in a variety of lengths so you can choose what you feel comfortable in. I also love their vintage v-neck tees because they are so simple and comfortable but can be amped up with a long gold chain necklace.  In terms of clothes not being ruined--- make sure to check tags to make sure items are machine-washable and definitely buy some Honest brand stain spray. That spray has literally gotten blackberry, raspberry and paint stains out of my baby’s clothing (even whites!) and it’s all natural. Another thing that’s important to balances a look are accessories- a great watch, sunglasses, hats (I love fedoras and wide brim hats to protect from the sun) can all make such an impact. I also recommend a cute, cross body purse---it’s so easy to carry while running errands and looks great with any outfit- my favorites are by Tory Burch, Kate Spade and Rebecca Minkoff."

Denise: "I totally hear ya girl!  I am in the same boat with my 8 month old baby girl!  Let me just start off by saying I LOVE TARGET.  I seriously find most of my casual tops there and they have comfy, easy dresses that you can run around in too.  I also love H&M!  I find jeans and shorts there mostly, at great prices (and their baby collection is adoraaaable!).  I love JCrew Outlet!  If you have one close to you, then you lucky dog you!  But if not, you can also shop online."

Emily: "wow that's a huge question! I think the easiest way to accomplish that would be to invest in regular items like jeans and t shirts that A, fit well and B, have fun prints! A print instantly dresses up an outfit so it doesn't look so 'boring mom' if you were to run out for errands without having time to change, but they'll still be comfortable enough and washable enough that you won't feel like you're dressed up for the dishes. Also as much as I like wearing brighter colors especially during warmer weather, I wear dark colors more and more these days with a 4, 2, 1, and 4 month old. they just hide everything!"

Lynzy: "My wardrobe has definitely changed significantly since I had Olivia! Most days I wear comfortable jeans (found some great options at H&M) and a tee with some espadrille canvas shoes (so comfy and more dressed up than sneaks!) In the summer I will mostly live in dresses - so comfy - easy on and off!"

FOUR: "What advice or encouragement can you give for the girl who literally knows nothing about babies (me..) and is considering starting a family. I wrestle with feelings of unpreparedness, embarrassment over lack of knowledge, and anxiety. What prepared you or at least made you feel more comfortable with impending motherhood?"

Lynzy: "Okay so let me first start off by saying....you are never fully prepared for motherhood. ever. There is never a "good" time to start a family because there will always be SOMETHING  -- whether it's "we need more money" or "we want to travel first". I can tell you that having Olivia is hands down the best thing that ever happened to me and my husband. There are definitely days where my patience is tried and I feel like I need a break, but we made this little nugget and she is ours and it is a beautiful thing. I haven't read many books or anything, I just use momma's intuition. It's a real thing ;) "

Emily: "That's tough to condense, but I guess what comes to mind is that everyone will have advice on how you should do things, and they'll always conflict.haha But in the end you just have to do what you feel is right for your babies and trust your own best judgement, because no one knows your babes like you do and no two are the same! I remember how scary being pregnant with and having my first baby was, and really it's not gotten any less scary.haha It's a wild, messy, silly, amazing ride so just make sure you don't spend to much time being sad that he or she never wore that one adorable outfit or that you never took 6 month pictures. It's the little tummy giggles and feeling their little downy fluffy heads that matter the most.haha Your babies will love you unconditionally, and if you have a question there's always google!"

Denise:"If you’re heart is being led to have children then you are as prepared as you need to be.  Honestly!  With that said, there are plenty of books to read during your 9 months of pregnancy and golly day thanks goodness for those million doctor visits you go too because they give you information!  And then, once that little baby lady or baby gent has arrived – their pediatrician will give you tons of information at every appointment.  So truthfully my advice, is that you are ready.  You are ready where you are right now.  You don’t have to have any experience with babies or any knowledge.  You will be scared to death with or without that knowledge but something kicks in when you become a mama called instinct.  Oh and thank goodness for Google J

Veronika: "I think no one is ever truly prepared for deciding to pursue parenthood and it’s a learn-as-you go process because every baby and every family is so different. A lot of the times it’s about trusting your own instincts and also turning to others you trust for support and encouragement. If you already know you want a child but are just nervous about motherhood, I will tell you that though it has many challenges, it is also the most rewarding experience and you may surprise yourself at how it all comes together as you learn and grow with your baby. I did read some books and I did work with children when I was younger, but nothing compares to the experience of having your own child so no matter how much experience you have (or don’t have) you just have to “go with the flow.” I know how difficult that sounds because my own personality is to plan things, but the truth is that you may have a really “easy” baby or a baby with colic (and that’s just one example) and you have to cross that bridge when you get there. The best thing you can do when deciding to become a mother is to be sure that your relationship with your partner is strong and that you can count on your partner to support you and provide the assistance you need with pregnancy and childcare. Having a child can really test even the strongest relationships so making sure that foundation is strong and based on mutual respect, love and trust is crucial."

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must ask mama: round two

It's that time again!  Time for our monthly Must Ask Mama link-up where 6 mamas answer your questions!

Remember to email your questions for next month to Lynzy (sparklingfootsteps at gmail dot com)!

1.) What are the essentials needed (or just great items) for a birthing hospital bag?  - Katie

Kilee: "Packing a hospital bag sounds much more overwhelming than it should be.  Really it is just packing most of the things you would want to take to a hotel for a few days. I've had three babies and each time I have found myself packing more and more like it is a short overnight getaway. Ok, ok, so it isn't quite so relaxing as a vacation, but I am one who LOVES my stay at the hospital. Just me and my baby, food delivered to me and meds on call- it may as well be a vacation!

My list of recommended items would be: comfy lounge clothes (such as leggings, an big cardigan and a comfy tee, socks and slippers), shampoo, conditioner, hair products, hair appliances, makeup, basic toiletries like face wash, moisturizer and a toothbrush, a laptop, your camera (with the charger and SD card), and your cell phone + charger. You will want to look like a cute human again after you are up and moving so don't feel bad doing your hair and makeup and putting on real clothes. As for baby, bring a cute hat, a coming home outfit  and a blanket or two. Just don't bring a blue blanket- it makes the baby look super red in photos!

Honestly don't stress about it- your hubby will be going home anyways and can bring you anything you forgot."

Veronika: "My favorite thing I brought was a Victoria's Secret supersoft sleep shirt. I seriously lived in it my entire hospital stay (and at home!) It's long, so soft and comfy and it makes breastfeeding so easy.

I really didn't need to bring much because the hospital provided most of the things I needed (like pads, mesh underwear, bath supplies, etc.) I also brought and wore a nursing bra and a pair of Lululemon stretchy pants to wear around. Their "still pants" are great because they are looser than the other fits, perfect for postpartum."

Erica: "Great Question! I'm nearing the end of my second pregnancy and plan on writing a post about this soon, but here are the first things that come to mind:

Toiletries: Travel-Size Conditioner, Face Wipes, Deodorant, Make-up, Lotion, Hairbrush, Toothbrush, Toothpaste, and everything else you would pack on a weekend trip. Last time I packed giant maxi pads, but I found the underwear-like pads the hospital provided to be more effective.

Electronics: Cameras, extra batteries, an extra SIM card, cell-phone chargers. I also brought my Bose portable speaker system so that I could play some motivating music (Pennywise) during my delivery. Some hospitals have something like that for you to use already.

Clothing: Comfortable, loose clothing (sweatpants, v-necks, etc.), a few pairs of the biggest underwear you have that you don't mind possibly getting a few blood stains on, and socks. Last time I packed a Maxi dress for my "going home outfit," but I ended up staying in my sweatpants and v-neck instead. One thing I'm packing this time that I didn't pack last time is my own delivery gown. The one the hospital provided was so gross and call me superficial but I was not stoked about how I looked in pictures.

Snacks. They'll tell you you can't eat during labor, but I went in without eating dinner and felt like I had no energy to push a baby out of me. I was so glad to have a pack of gummy bears on me... I ended up sneaking them when the doctors and nurses weren't looking. I also had snacks packed for the recovery period, which came in handy when I didn't like what was on the hospital menu.

For The Baby: A nursing pillow, a receiving blanket (some hospitals won't allow you to take the ones they provide), a "going home" outfit, a beanie, socks, baby wipes (some only provide dry paper because they don't want you using real baby wipes).

Other: A copy of your birth plan."

Britt: "I wrote a whole post here about what I packed, but some of my favorite must have items were: yoga pants, a robe, slippers, medium sized maxi pads, granny panties/mens boxer briefs, flip flops, and your own personal toiletries to make you feel more like yourself. I wish I would have packed lighter colored tops to go with my dark pants because there were many pictures and I felt like I looked washed out in my pictures. "

Denise: "First of all, I wanted to pack EVERYTHING!  But in reality, here is what worked for me!

For baby, I packed two cute outfits for pictures and about 4 sleepers!  Truthfully, sleepers is what the babe will be in most, but I wanted to have a cute going home outfit for her other than a sleeper and one more option for possible photo ops.  I also packed about 3-4 of my own swaddle blankets.  You will be swaddling your baby like a burrito for a while so these are a MUST.  Not only was it nice to have her own stuff, but we had the nurses show my hubby and I how to swaddle using our blankets so when we got home it wasn’t so much of a learning curve.  My favorite swaddle blankets are Aden and Anais (we use them for everything swaddling, burp clothes, light blanket in the summer). 

For the mama, my essentials included anything that made me feel COMFORTABLE and slightly pretty.  I mean after you give birth, pretty is probably the last thing you feel, but you are so overwhelmed with joy that it really doesn’t matter.  However, a good shower and a little tinted cheek stain can go a long way when you are posing for tons of pictures.  So I packed my essentials – just some good shampoo and body wash and like I said, cheek stain.  I didn’t bother drying my hair or fussing with makeup really but as long as I felt clean, I felt good.  As far as clothing, I opted for comfort.  I wore yoga pants the entire time – including on the way home – and nursing tanks.  I got some great nursing tanks from Target as well as a nursing bra or two (although I never actually wore a bra when I was wearing my nursing tanks – probably the only plus side to not have big ta-tas!).  Other than nursing tanks, I packed some comfy wraps and cardigans to throw over my tanks because it gets cold in those hospitals rooms! 

As far as other necessities, a good pillow for the hubs is a must (the hospital ones are not so great), a nursing pillow of some kind, your camera (duh), possibly an iPod or something to provide you with some music when you aren’t trying to sleep.  And honestly, that is it in my opinion!  I’m sure I am missing a few things in this list but that really is the jist of the important stuff! 

Some other hospital tips – take everything you can before you leave – I mean extra granny panties, feminine products, diapers, samples of nipple cream and those amazing socks they give you!"

Lynzy: What a great question! I did a lot of research about this when I was packing my own bag! My friend Mallory did a guest post here that I really loved. So ultimately, the biggest things I used and loved while in the hospital was: Comfortable PJs (You will still want lots of room because your belly still looks 6 months pregnant after birth!) -- Comfy underwear ---nursing bar (although I never wore mine, I just wore the button down front pajamas and unbuttoned to feed her---Mints/gum for during the labor process---Your favorite shower/beauty products (that first shower you get after birth is amazing and you will love putting on your favorite lotion and it helps you to feel at home) ---one baby outfit for home (I brought more than one but she lived in her swaddle that the hospital gave her!) -- Going home outfit - yoga pants/Tee -- Toiletries for hubby ---all electronics (camera, videocamera, phone, etc) --- ipod dock (I made a birthing playlist!) --- birthing gown (I ordered mine- you can see it here) --- slippers!

2.)  "I'm 18 years old and in the middle of my first pregnancy, I feel like there is so much I don't know and I want to know a few top tips  that really helped when you first became a mother" -Jenny from Diary of a Dreamer

Veronika: "Hi Jenny!  Congratulations on your pregnancy!  I read a lot of books, but the best advice I can give you is to skip reading tons of pregnancy books and to read the ones about babies and the infant stage. I also looked to friends for advice and reassurance when I didn't know if something was "normal."  Be sure you have a network of other moms you can call or text if you need support.  I also recommend not being too hard on yourself during recovery. You will likely be emotional, exhausted and hormonal. It's okay to cry, it's okay to wear your pyjamas all day, it's okay to sleep when the baby sleeps (and it's okay not to).  The last tip is to take it all in…take lots of photos and videos, they are only this tiny once!"

Erica: "I guess the most important thing I can tell you is to follow your instincts. I don't think anyone is ever really ready to become a mother until they are one. You'll be amazed at how many things will just come naturally to you. But if they don't, don't be afraid to ask for (or accept) help. One thing I remember someone telling me is to go on as many outings as you can when your baby is still a newborn (if you can). For most babies, this is the easiest time to do it. If you live an active lifestyle, they'll be used to outings right from the get-go. I found this advice to be true and I was so glad I followed it. I wrote a blog post with similar tips here - if you're interested. :)"

Britt: "I felt the same way when I was pregnant. My husband and I decided to take some birthing classes at the hospital that we were delivering at to learn some basics. I didn't know how to swaddle and learned in the class. It was a nice overview of what to expect, and the best thing about it was that the instructors were labor and delivery nurses so they answered a ton of questions we had. For the actual delivery part, I tried not to know much. I wanted to be as naive as possible so that I could just enjoy giving birth and keep in mind that every delivery is different and that I didn't need to stress about every possibility. A few tips I have is to take others advice with a grain of salt. Some people will really help you and others will cause you more stress. Every baby is different and you just do what works for you and your baby. As tired as you will be in the newborn days, enjoy them, because they go by so fast and you will miss that tiny newborn. Good luck :) "

Denise: "Congrats Jenny!  Becoming a mother is one of the most special things in the world and you are in for an amazing journey!  Here are three top tips if I had to narrow them down 

1. Ask for help!  Don’t try to be superwoman after your give your birth.  People will ask to help.  Let them!  They want to help, so delegate.  And if people don’t offer – ask!  Seriously!  Don’t fuss with the laundry or dishes if you don’t have to.  Focus on you and that baby of yours for that first month or so.  You will have enough on your plate with carrying for your newborn, resting, breastfeeding, learning how to change a diaper (I kinda struggled ya’ll!) and nourishing your healing body – so get help for all the other stuff.  I struggled with this at first, but once I released control and welcomed the help, I felt so much better.  Go ahead and plan ahead too.  Ask for help before the baby.  If your parents are available ask them to plan on helping out right after the baby, or find some friends who are willing to help.  Trust me.  It makes all the different. 

2.  Remember this very important thing – YOU ARE NOT A CRAZY PERSON.  After giving birth, your hormones are kinda like a rocket ship.  I mean really.  Throw in literally NO sleep, and you could possibly think you have gone mad.  Well, just remember you have not gone crazy.  It’s normal to cry.  It’s normal to feel a whirlwind of emotions – both highs and lows – those first two weeks or so.  Cut yourself some slack and take a deep breath.  You are doing a great job. (I will say that I, thankfully did not suffer from PPD, and if you are ever seriously worried about your emotions – call your doctor and just ask!  It’s very common and totally normal too!)

3.  That leads me to my last tip.  When you want to call your doctor, call them.  When you want to call your pediatrician, call them.  Who cares that you’ve already called them 6 times before noon?  No one.  A mama’s peace of mind is so valuable – especially in those first few weeks.  I took my daughter to the doctor every week for the first two months of her life.  Looking back, I was totally crazy and paranoid.  But I’m so thankful my husband never questioned me or made me feel bad about it.  If you are concerned or worried, just call.  It is way better to spend the $20 copay for a visit to the doctor than to worry your sleep-deprived, hormonal self all night."

Lynzy: Oh my goodness! First of all, congrats - you are embarking on such an amazing journey and you will love it! You will want everyone's help in the first 4 weeks. It is a blur (even to me now...) and you will want all the snacks/prepared food/hands you can get. If someone comes over tell them what you need - dishes cleaned, food prepared, change the baby's diaper- whatever. Put them to work! :)     Being a mommy is the best job in the world, but that doesn't mean it doesn't come with very difficult, trying times. Olivia had colic for the first three months and literally screamed day in and day out. Talk about frustrating. I wanted to give up so many times. STICK WITH IT. You are the best momma for that lil babe and one day it will get better. It did for us - she woke up at 3 months and hardly ever cries now. Breast feeding is HARD. I stuck with it and we are almost 6 months going strong, but do whatever is best for your baby and you. If you formula feed, there is nothing wrong with that. Do what YOU think is best, not what anyone else tells you. Listen to you. People love to give advice (I mean look at use giving you advice!) but you always know what is best for your baby.    Finally, take time for yourself. Even if it's 5 minutes. Regroup. Take a shower -- a long one. You will never feel better than when you take a break. Do it. Often. 

Kilee: "My tip would be to read a lot. Read a lot of different parenting books and don't be afraid to ask questions to the moms around you that you  admire. Having the knowledge base from reading many different perspectives will put the information in your head and your heart will help you figure out what advice is best for you and your child. There is no best way to parent, but there is a best way to parent your little one and you will know what that is if you put the effort into finding out and learning."

3.) "How does one dress little ones in a chic / cute way while on a limited budget? I just can't afford to but BabyGap clothes on clearance. And I'm tired of Target!" Leanne from Being Jane

Erica: "One of my favorite stores for cute and affordable baby clothes is Old Navy. They always have awesome coupons and sales, and even clothes that aren't on sale are pretty affordable. I tend to buy most of my baby's clothing online because it's so much easier to compare prices and find the best deals. Every now and then I "design" my own baby clothes. No, I can't sew to save my life, but I'll take a white Gerber onesie and create my own design on it. There are a few tutorials I've found on Pinterest that show you how to make cute stamp prints on plain baby leggings as well."

Britt: "Having a baby girl is really challenging when it comes to clothing. There are way too many cute things that I could spend a fortune on, but that is not possible for us. When I was pregnant I was gifted enough play clothes for my daughter, but I wanted some nicer smocked or nicer brand items. I buy a lot of my daughters clothes on sale for the next year. I cannot afford regular priced baby gap, but they do have amazing sales. In the back of baby gap there is usually a clearance rack, and if you go during a time when there are additional sales, you can get already marked down items for an additional 40% + off. I bought so many play clothes for this winter that were $4-8. It was so reasonably priced I couldn't resist stocking up. Another thing I just recently got hooked on is consignment sales. In my area local churches have big consignment sales that have gently used clothing for very cheap. I got a kissy kissy outfit for $4 and other really great brands of clothing for just as cheap. This is one of my favorite ways to shop these days."

Denise: "First and foremost, I hear ya Leanne!  I constantly battle with my slight obsession with the adorable-ness of baby clothes coupled with the nagging reality that I don’t need to spend $$$ on one measly outfit that Georgia will grow out of in months!  My solution?  SALE BABY SALE!  I first of all love Carter’s.  I think they’re clothes are adorable and they are wonderful about having great sales – especially end-of-season sales.  I plan ahead too.  At the end of last summer, I stocked up on ADORABLE dresses (that look very Lilly Pullitzer-ish) from Carter’s.  I got them in 12 months so G could wear them this summer too and they were crazy clearance (think $2-$3 a dress!).  The best thing about Carter’s is that if you save your receipt you can return it no matter how long ago you bought it.  So I buy in advance and if it doesn’t fit her, I can return it – even a year later!  I also loooove Zulily.  They have sales that last for about a week and have heavily discounted baby and children’s clothes!  I am a sucker for anything smocked and Zulily is great for having those at reasonable prices!  Also – H&M.  They have such cute things for babies and children and at amazing prices.  I’m kind of obsessed with everything H&M lately (I just got my fave pair of jeans from there for $9.99), and am seriously wondering why it’s taken me so long to embrace this amazing brand!  Lastly, I reuse and recycle!  When my daughter grows out of a dress, usually it’s because it’s a little short.  It usually still fits her in the neck – so then I use it as a top for her!  That way you get more wear out of your clothes too!  So there ya have it!  Those three stores are wear we get most of our baby clothes from!  I hope that helps!"

Lynzy: Okay. I am so bad with this. I want to buy my babe EVERYTHING. The best discovery for my was finding "Instagram shops". These are mamas who are selling their barely used/gently used clothing. Seriously babies wear things maybe once and then grow out of them so these items are in great (if not new condition) and I just wash everything once i get it. I got SO many of Olivia's clothes from the Instagram shops. I have great suggestions of some if you want the names. You can get things for SO much cheaper than in the stores. 

Kilee: "I am all about this question! I don't spend a lot on my kids' clothing - it just isn't my nature or in our budget. I am all about buying second hand. I have good luck thrifting in the nicer parts of town and you can find great name brand items on eBay or Thread Up. I also really shop the sales at GAP and Old Navy (like the extra 40% off of clearance sales!). H&M is hit or miss for me although it is priced well. For shoes I often shop 6pm.com and find great deals on name brand items. TJ Maxx sometimes has cute things on clearance and so does Ross or Marshalls."

Veronika: "Hi Leanne!  I am a big fan of sales. I like to shop at Baby Gap but I wait until things are 35-40% off---I never pay full price.  Something you might look into are instagram accounts and websites that sell gently used baby clothes for lower prices.  I love Target for baby clothes but I've noticed they don't get new stuff as often as they used to, so I can see how that can be frustrating when you're wanting to buy cute, inexpensive baby clothes. Carter's, OshKosh and Old Navy also have fantastic sales (up to 50% off).  I also think Marshalls has some really cute baby clothes for a fraction of the price you'd pay elsewhere. The last place you can look is etsy. There are so many great shops with affordable pieces and a lot of them can be customized too. I also want to mention that simplicity is really appealing to me when it comes to baby clothes. A simple tee with some printed leggings is absolutely adorable. It doesn't need to be embellished or ruffled or extravagant (often meaning it's pricey!) to be cute. There are also lots of great tutorials online about how to make cute headbands with knots and bows if you have a girl and want to add some accessories on the cheap.  Happy shopping!"

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