What Jessie has learned...

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Meet Jessie...
Jessie and I met in college when we joined the same sorority.  She is one of the sweetest girls I know and I got the privilege of catching up with her a few weeks ago at the beach!  She is also the writer behind the The Long and Short of It and OH MY GOODNESS does she have an eye for fashion and decorating.  Just take a look at her kitchen renovation... I die.  Oh, and wait to you see her wedding pictures.  OK OK here she is....

Hi, Jessie here from The Long and Short of It
I am so thrilled that Denise asked me to guest post and share what I have learned since I said "I Do".   My husband and I celebrated our one year anniversary a couple of weeks ago.  I have to say that I have loved being married but it is not always rainbows and unicorns. It is hard work. Here are a few things I have learned (and am still working on)...

are you dying yet? she's stunning

Don't sweat the small stuff. You know that toothpaste lid that your significant other never puts back on the toothpaste, let it go. No one is perfect. ( I happen to be the person who never puts the lid back on)

Be yourself. You do not have to have everything in common. It is okay to have things you enjoy doing without the other person. 

Communication is key. This sounds so cliche and I cannot believe I am writing this. It is probably the hardest thing to learn in the first year. We are still working on this. We try to have a time when we say all the little things that are annoying us so it does not turn into bigger issues. 

Make your marriage a priority. I am bad at this. There are some weeks between work, friends, grocery shopping and laundry that I look up and realize I have not really had a conversation with my husband. Sometimes when you have so many obligations it is easy to put your husband on the back burner because he will always be around.  Make sure that you take time out of your week to make time for each other. 

Comparison is the thief of all joy. Do not compare your relationship to people around you. Again, no one is perfect. Instead of focusing on what other people are doing, focus on your own relationship. 

Say I am sorry and mean it!

While I was reflecting on the past year I thought I would ask my husband what he has learned. His response...
"I learned what ikat is."

Sounds about right.

all photos via Nancy Ray Photography


Nicole Marie said...

oh my gosh her dress!!! i can not get over it!!

Anonymous said...

"i learned what ikat is". priceless.

marriage is very much like a marathon with no finish line. you train, you train, some days you eat at mcdonalds and watch tv, and then you train some more. and along the way is so insanely rewarding.

Jessie said...

Thanks for having me on the blog!! You are the sweetest!

megan said...

Ha! I love Doug's ikat comment. :) Still obsessed with your dress, Jessie.

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